Vocabulary
Vocabulary Sheet – Week 2
Love Ethics Cell
Diffuse Love Sphere:
Definition: Someone who can be sacrificial, but only in a shallow superficial way. Characterized by numerous casual relationships, but has difficulty building long-term, intimate relationships.
Description: shallow, numerous relationships
Clarifications: Characterized by the search for Present Love Feelings. For example, the man is nice to everyone but then gets home and doesn’t talk to wife. Can love anyone shallow but no one a lot. He’s still going out with the boys (bowling) but can’t home and relate deep to one person. Diffuse relationships mandate constant, ongoing interaction because the feelings are shallow, despite how jolting and electric they feel at the time.
Tribal Love Sphere:
Definition: Restricting deep relational commitments to a select few: family and a few chosen friends. Marked by rigidity, control, predictability, and extreme loyalty. It can cause naive guilt, fearfulness and anxiety.
Clarifications: Need to flesh-out the guilty love aspect more.
Permanent Love Values – PLV
- Definition:
- The emotional structures built around foundational (permanent) relationships.
- Illustration:
- God, spouse, family.
- Present Love Feelings:
- Definition: Love energy that should emanate from within the structures of someone’s Permanent Love Values, but they might have to come from outside when Permanent Love Values are missing. These stir strong, positive emotional feelings that stimulate others to invest.
- Clarifications: Hugs, intimate moments, sexual expression, thanksgiving, etc.
Victorious Love Output:
Definition: This is the faith-based confidence that Love Feelings and Emotional Significance can be built by transforming the Godly Love invested in us into the Mature Love capable of the Redemption of another.
Description: the expected outcome of practicing mature love
Clarifications: It means standing on faith in Biblical Love Principles to rise above the problems and Immature Love of others to shape relationships rather than being shaped by relationships. It is the kind of Mature Love parents must demonstrate towards their unstable and immature children when the child throws a temper-tantrum, for example. When he yells “I hate you, Mommy!” then Victorious Love Output answers, “That may be so, but you’re still going to bed.” Immature Love would strike back in anger.